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Today's Girls in Today's World
We live in a world where technology has become who we are. Look around. Everyone is looking down at their cell phones checking out what everyone is doing and posting. We’re not talking to each other anymore. We’re not touching each other anymore. We’re not reaching out to each other anymore except through our posts. And I’m as guilty as the next person. I love technology. I’ve learned how to create websites, blogs, mobile apps, change codes and if I can’t figure things out, I google it.
Social networks have given us the ability to connect with old friends, make with new friends and follow those around the world. But the Lord put this thought on my heart the other day -Who do you follow? As I thought about those words, my heart began to ache. Lord, I follow you. But as I continued to ponder and pray about it, I realized that I was letting the noise of this world distract me from His love and guidance. It doesn’t matter how many followers you have or who you follow as long as you follow the One who loves you most and knows you best.
This is my journey. This is day one – to let go of the noise so I can talk more, touch more and to reach out to others so they will know the Lord that I follow.
Cutting is a form of intentional self injury that includes scratching or cutting the skin using items such as razor blades, knifes, or any sharp instrument to alleviate suffering. It is estimated that one out of eight girls engage in some form of self-injury.
To me, it’s difficult to understand cutting, but explanations for those who do cut; it’s a feeling of control and a distraction of personal pain. It’s important to remember that each teen is different and may cut for different reasons. So if you suspect that your teen daughter or granddaughter is cutting, it’s important to seek professional help. Identify the troubled areas in your teen’s life that would cause her to cut.
So what do you look for? Here are a few risk factors.
• Most cutters do not have a healthy way of dealing with stress or emotional pain. Has your teen lost a friend or family member? Does she have a low body image or low self-esteem? Does she have difficulty in expressing her feelings?
• Is she wearing long sleeves even in warm weather?
• Is she wearing thick wristbands that hide her marks?
• Does she have unexplained marks or scars on her body?
• Are there missing items like knives, scissors, safety pins, and razors?
• Is she spending long periods of time alone?
This is a difficult issue to handle, but Jesus says – Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 NIV
Seek Him as you begin to help your teen. Pray for God’s wisdom and direction. Sometimes we have to put aside our own pain to help others with theirs.
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Have you ever told a little white lie? You know, those minor lies we tell others out of politeness. We’ve all been there. We’ve either told them or been the recipients of them. But did you ever get caught?
Years ago, our middle son was hanging out at his best friend’s home. But later that night, he missed curfew. Like any mother, I started making calls. After many failed attempts, his older brother hinted to me that I should check out this party. That night, I became every teenager’s fear. Yes, I found my son at the party and took him home.
I thought about his punishment and then my husband gave me an idea. He didn’t get grounded. We didn’t take anything away. But since he wasn’t where he said he’d be, I told him that the following weekend we were going to hang out together. And I mean together. If I got up at 6:00 a.m., he got up at 6:00 a.m. If I went to the store, he went to the store. If I took a walk, he took a walk. Oh, it became a very interesting weekend. Surprisingly, he did it. To me and everyone else, it was hilarious. To him, I’m sure he wasn’t too happy. To this day, he has never forgotten our bonding weekend together because of his dishonesty.
Teens lie or tell half-truths for many different reasons. They lie to get out of something they don’t want to do, to cover their tracks, to protect their friends, exaggerate truths to make them look bigger, or just to fit in with their peers. We all know that lying is not a good thing and if it’s not dealt with early, it can lead to a lifetime integrity issues.
As parents and grandparents, we need to be able to discern between truth and deception. It’s difficult. All of us want to trust our teens! All of us want to believe what they tell us. But you have this gut feeling that something isn’t adding up.
How do you know if your teen daughter is lying or telling the truth?
• She will get defensive when you tell her you’re going to check-up on her story. If she is telling the truth, she will gladly provide information about her story. She might be insulted, but not defensive.
• She won’t look at you the same way as if she were telling you the truth. Be aware of how you communicate with your teen daughter. Does she avoid eye contact? Is she trying too hard to convince you? Is she looking at you for a long period without blinking?
• Check out her body language. Looking down, fidgeting, long pauses in answering questions, touching her face and mouth. These are not solid proof actions, but a few things that people do when they lie.
• Does she avoid details or change her story?
Proverbs 12:22 states – The Lord detests lying lips but he delights in people who are trustworthy.
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